The blackgirlsguidetomenopause and "toxic fairytales from patriarchy"

In this video Omi from blackgirlsguidetomenopause unpacks some messages girls receive that tells us our worth comes from men - the fathers who we're told to rely on to certify whether we are "good girls", and male partners we're told to seek out regardless of our actual sexual orientation (because compulsory heterosexuality is a thing) who show us our worth by "choosing" us.

Her story inspired the memories and reflections in this post.